Those of you who visit Not-a-Fortune on any sort of regular basis should be familiar with my dear friend Single Blonde in the City. She is dealing with the impending death of her beloved grandmother, a gracious, beautiful woman with whom she is incredibly close. Nana has lived with Alzheimer's disease for some time now and though SBITC has mentally prepared herself for what is to come, this is understandably a difficult time for everyone involved.
Last night, a family friend brought dinner - Chinese food - to SBITC's family as they gathered at her parents' house to await the inevitable. While a couple of cookie inserts (not-a-fortunes) were quickly discarded "because we didn't need any of that nonsense last night," six of them "stood out as being significant in a very special way." SBITC says she and her family were able to relate all of the following "Nana-fortunes," as she dubbed them, to her grandmother:
"Don't repay a kindness, pass it on."
"A beautiful person is with you, confide your problems."
"Luck is coming your way."
"There is a true and sincere friendship between you both."
"The principle business of life is to enjoy it."
"A pleasant surprise is in store for you."
SBITC wanted to share these cookie inserts because even during this trying time she felt "the good fortune of receiving such kind sayings that truly seem to define who/what my grandmother is, and what is in store for her."
I thought about ending this post with a quote about love and loss, which would be a perfectly reasonable choice. But then I remembered this Carolyn Heilbrun quote and I realized it's ideal for my friend SBITC, who has had some ups and downs the past few years that I've known her (who hasn't?) but whose strength and courage and resilience has never ceased to amaze me. SBITC, I wish you and your family peace.
"Most important, she has become braver as she has aged, less interested in the opinions of those she does not cherish, and has come to realize that she has little to lose ... that age above all is the time when there is little 'they' can do for you, very little reason to fear, to hide, or not to attempt brave and important things."
~ Carolyn Heilbrun