Just over two weeks ago I wrote about the passing of my dear friend Single Blonde in the City's grandmother. As SBITC and her family gathered in the days prior to Nana's death, a family friend brought them Chinese food. Several of the not-a-fortunes seemed as though they had been selected specifically for Nana's family that night, and SBITC shared them with me. I shared them with you here.
This past Sunday, I attended the memorial service SBITC's family held for both of her grandparents (the beautiful flowers pictured above are from the service). I had no intention of writing about it, but when my courageous friend stood up to speak about her grandparents' lives and all that she's learned from them I knew I had to because she had a very familiar, very small piece of paper in her hand: a fortune cookie insert! She explains the genesis of her remarks much better than I ever could, and you should visit her blog and read her post about the memorial service by following this link.
I will tell you that as soon as I saw that tiny slip of paper in her hands I dove into my bag and pulled out my trusty purple Sharpie* and jotted down the not-a-fortune SBITC received at lunch just hours before the memorial service:
"If you continually give, you will continually have."
She did not immediately connect this aphorism with her grandparents, as she explains in her post. The pastor who led the service spoke of her grandparents' commitment to servanthood, though, and SBITC knew this to be true.
I will leave you with something else I wrote down while at the memorial service:
Our lives are shaped as much by those who leave us as they are by those who stay.
*I adore ultra fine point Sharpies, especially in purple and red. For a list of my other Favorite Things, visit http://sixcents.tumblr.com/post/1162091713/these-are-a-few-of-my-favorite-things